Secular society

Whenever I see Muslims being interviewed on TV, one thing they always say is that Islam protects women's modesty, and they are against the exploitation of women in secular society. They only emphasize the negative aspects of secular society, which they consider depraved. So that it becomes acceptable for young Muslim men and women to commit murder and suicide to destroy secular society in order to protect their women's modesty and prevent their society becoming corrupt!
But, there are of course many positive features of secular society that they would destroy and throw out, while taking society back to medieval times or even earlier to the time of Mohammed. The important thing about modern liberal secular democracy is that it allows everyone the freedom to choose their own path. If a Muslim woman wants to wear a headscarf, that's acceptable, or if a Jewish woman wants to wear a hat and a long dress, that's up to her. But, there should be no coercion, if they change their minds, that too is acceptable. This is the only way that different ethnic groups can live together in harmony, if they respect each others preferences without the use of force or violence both between groups and within groups. There must be an overall secular legal system that is unbiased as to any one religious or ethnic group. But, there must be limits, noone is allwoed to shout "fire" in a corded hall when there is no fire, and covering one's complete face and body is definitely a step backwards for women's equality.
The problem is that within Muslim society it is considered an honor to be a martyr for the cause, to blow up infidels if it brings the demise of secular society and the imposition of Sharia law closer. It is also considered acceptable to murder young women if they don't obey the strict rules of Muslim society and bring "dishonor" on their family. Isn't it a terrible inversion of ethics that killing your own daughter or sister is less dishonorable than what your neighbors think about your family?
There was the terrible case in northern Iraq which was captured on video (that the Fatah secret police tried to pass off as an event in Hamas-controlled Gaza) when a 14 year old girl was beaten, stomped and murdered by a mob of men of the Yazidi minority because her family said that she had dishonored them by meeting a Sunni boy. There have been murders of Muslim girls in the USA, UK, Holland, Germany as well as Pakistan, Gaza and Afghanistan, by their own brothers and fathers, over the flimsiest of excuses. Several family members have been tried on murder charges in these cases of so-called "honor killings." In Iran, a young woman was beaten to death on the street because she walked arm in arm with a man who was not her betrothed or husband (the boy received no punishment). And this kind of treatment was upheld as legitimate by the religious authorities in Iran!
Those of us who support secular society are not in favor of the exploitation of women, and we have laws against that. You also don't have to like the way Hollywood starlets dress, nobody forces you to watch it, but that doesn't make secular society immoral. These are trivial tests, what is important is that everyone is equal before the law, that is a much better test of the value of secular society.